5 THINGS SUPER-HAPPY COUPLES DO EVERYDAY

I had an ample time browsing yesterday and I came across a nice article. The title itself sounds very inviting. Yes, the same title I'm using for this entry. May be some of you already read the article but some are not. I think it's nice to share it with who those not. It's a 6 pages article but I'm not gonna copy and paste it. I prefer to summarize it.


1. Talk To Each Other
The first one is really simple as it sounds, I guess. But not really, because there are couples out there who don't talk to each other for quite sometimes. Yes, this type of couples does exist. If you still feel like talking to each other, don't worry you're doing it right. It doesn't have to be a proper discussion, just a normal chit chat.
2. Flirt
Who says that we can't flirt our own spouse after we got married? The flirt routine should be continued even after you have kids. Talk sexy, and sex should be discussed.

Back home in my country, talking about sex is still considered as taboo by most of the people. It might be because we're Asian, we are shy and reserved, But I think things had changed and most people, doesn't matter where they come from, they are now more understanding can could accept it.

3. Get Stupid Together
Life is serious enough, workloads for those having careers for instance. For those who are not , raising up and teaching our own kids is already brainstorming. We do need to do something fool and who can you be stupid with other than our husbands? We don't talk something silly to our boss or kids right?

Doing something stupid or disgusting such as biting his ass doesn't mean you are stupid, and don't do something disgusting in front of other people. Try it, it really does wonder, and will upsurge your intimacy.

4. Declare Your Independence
Above all that, we must remember an old saying "How can I miss you if you don't go away?" or a Malay saying "Sayangkan isteri, tinggal-tinggalkan" (translation: If you love your wife, be apart from her sometimes)

Having a wife or husband doesn't mean that you are having them totally. Yes, they are yours but they are a different person still. And they are driven to do what they wanted to do. So don't control them. This must be built on trust.

5. Share A Spiritual Moment
This is also really important, after being silly with each other we must remember our roots. What is our main purpose living in this world. God created us for a reason. And all in all, we must believe that we're blessed to be with him/her. Be grateful for having each other, pray not only for yourself but for your couple as well.



Original article is by: TY WENGER
www.redbookmag.com

New Look

I have been very mean and bias to this blog, not only infrequently updated but I use ordinary template provided by blogger(formally known as blogspot). I think I should do something to this blog so I came out with this new layout. It's not something extravaganza but at least something new.

A Frustrated Mind

You should be grateful if you seldom feel frustrated because you are really lucky. Frustration is an essential piece of life. We need to enjoy our life to the bit don't we? So we need to enjoy frustration as well.

I can't resist to quote an interesting sentence I found in an article written by Noah Weinberg; "We possess the power to control our emotions" thus, it depends on us whether we want the frustration conquers or to head the frustration off us. Facing and dealing with it is the best remedy. So here are few steps of managing frustration I've found in the internet.

Managing Frustration:

Step 1
Lower your expectations. Most peoples' frustrations stem from their disappointment of things not working out the way they anticipated. If you are constantly being let down and are becoming frustrated because of it, evaluate how much pressure you put on yourself, on others and on situations in your life.

Step 2
Accept life as it is. One thing is guaranteed in the game of life, you will be dealt a bad hand from time to time. Devote a small amount of time to thoughts of the difficult situation or period in your life, and focus on what you can do to change your current state of affairs. Your feelings of frustration will always take a back seat to creative emotional energy.

Step 3
Take nothing personally. People develop frustration over being let down by someone, cut off in traffic, shouted at by a loved one or any one of other common things. Nothing any one says or does should be taken as a direct affront to you. People have their reasons for the way they act, and, though it may seem it at times, their behavior has nothing to do with you and everything to do with their emotional mind-set at the time you crossed their paths.

Step 4
Take time to put the situation into perspective. If you begin to feel yourself becoming frustrated, go somewhere quiet and think about if the situation is worth being upset. Chances are when you contemplate whatever it is, you'll realize that in the grand scheme of life, it's just not that important.

Impress

I found that it is hard to meet other's requirement. And it is harder to please and to impress people. Moreover, when you do your task full-hearted and sincerely. Never ask anything in return. But I don't understand why people still can't see our earnestness and determination. Not only that, they complaint or show their dissatisfaction some more. What would you do if you're in this situation?

Me? Frustrated of course. People always want us to be like what they wanted us to be. But them do they know what we wanted to be and what WE wanted THEM to be? Do they care about that. Sometimes NO. But all I could do is be patient, and try to look at the positive side. If I couldn't see any, I will search for it.

So what I've learnt from it? I learnt that we cannot change people, but ourselves but I must not surrender in impressing people. That's what I do.

An Update

Oh..I saw spiderwebs everywhere here, in this blog. Who's the owner? BGRIN. Why didn't the owner clean this blog with a new post. LOL. Well many things happened to me and I was unable to post a REAL update. I'll try to do it soon. PROMISE!

Words of Wisdom

A wise man will make more opportunities than he finds.
Francis Bacon

The man of wisdom is never of two minds;
the man of benevolence never worries;
the man of courage is never afraid.
Confucius

There are two things to aim at in life; first to get what you want, and after that to enjoy it. Only the wisest of mankind has achieved the second.
Logan Pearsall Smith

Winning isn't everything, but wanting to win is.
Vince Lombardi

Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.
Robert Collier

To climb steep hills requires a slow pace at first.
Shakespeare

Try not to become a man of success but a man of value.
Albert Einstein

The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.
Eleanor Roosevelt

The less men think, the more they talk.
Baron Montesquieu

Happiness grows at our own firesides, and is not to be picked in strangers' gardens.
Douglas Jerrold

Why Exercise?

1. To lose some weight

2. To look more healthy and toned. Who don't want to look good anyway? People who lost weight by dieting only wouldn't look as good, as toned and as firmed.

3. Not only 'look' healthy but feel healthy as well because burning calories and fats blows those diseases away!

4. To feel more energetic. Those regular exercisers, don't you notice that you feel more energetic after exercising?

5. Keep muscle and bones strong. Regular exercise also can prevent osteoporosis (bone-weakening disease)

6. Manage depression and stress.

7. Help to have better sleep.

8. Help to have stronger immune system.

Body Image: Love Your Body

Body image is a part of self-esteem. It is the way you see yourself and it is most important thing. Healthy body image will lead to self-acceptance, wonderful and happier life. It is not the size that matter but health. You can feel and look great in any sizes. Our main problem is to fight with media that bombarding us with Barbie-like figure as a standard of beauty. But don't take it wrong. It's not that XXXL is good for us, obesity always invites diseases. Changing body image is to change what you think about your own body. Healthy lifestyle, such as regular exercise, eating habit and enough rest and well sleep will help you. It's about loving yourself inside and out. Don't feel down if you are large, don't feel you are not beautiful if you are big as long as you are healthy.

How To Improve Body Image:

• Self-talk and affirmations. Praise yourself and repeat positive affirmations in front of the mirror
  
• Don't compare your body with others.
• Stop fantasy thinking. If you are thinking that you'll be more beautiful with smaller arms then you stop it now. Your body is not the reason you are miserable.
  
• Find something you love about body. It encourages self love and makes you feel good about yourself.
  
• Be realistic on your size. May be you get it genetically from your family.
• Listen to your body. Eat when hungry, rest when tired.
  
• Leave the negative critics, look for support

Reference: http://loveyourbody.missouri.edu, http://www.healthybodyimage.com/ http://www.balancedlivingmag.com